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Warrior Princess

Warrior Princess

I used to get tired of always being the strong woman, of carrying so much weight on my shoulders, and then I realized I am the Warrior Princess and it is my destiny to carry the problems of others. Once I realized I was fulfilling my own destiny the weight became much easier to bear.

I have always been the one to get sobbing phone calls, but honestly, I would be sad if someone else got the “fix-it” calls. I am like a turtle, I plod along with all my cares and those of others on my back, or a horse, who carries heavy burdens with grace and dignity.

I don’t feel sorry for myself, no matter what, I can always pick myself back up. I am strong, I am invincible, I am able to fix a booboo with a kiss and scare monsters out from under beds. I can fix a meal for 5-6 people with almost no groceries in the house. I can teach small children to tie shoes and say ABC’s.

I earned every line on my face, every gray hair on my head, and every scar on my body, and I love them all, they all tell a story of a brave woman who survived terrible odds, who laughed too loud and loved too much and who never ever gave up.

 

I am a warrior, I will protect what’s mine, and I am a princess, because I look darn good while doing it. I am proud of who I have grown into, and excited to see who I grow into next.


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.

 
 

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The Perils of Mature (?) Dating

The Perils of Mature (?) Dating

I am using mature in the loosest sense possible, what I mean is over 35, age too often has nothing to do with maturity level. The sad thing about that is if one person is mature and the other is not it will cause problems in the relationship, if both are immature it will cause drama, and no one needs that.

The biggest problem with dating is unclear expectations. When is the right time to sleep together? If ever? Who pays for what? How often do you make plans? When should you be exclusive? How many texts or calls is too many? When can you let him (or her) see you without make-up? So many options, no one answer that is right or wrong. I think the answer is when you both feel comfortable with it, you have to be on the same page with what you want, need, expect,  and with what your partner wants, needs, expects. The only way to do this is by open, honest, communication. I know, no one wants to do that, but it is essential.

The other big problem around my age is that the vast majority of men in my age range are A) already happily married B) have never been married & want kids C) have kids whose ages are vastly different from yours D) recently divorced and wants to trade one 40 year old for 2 20’s or E) is so damaged by the demise of a relationship or a spouse that the love stuff is off, just the companion button is on. I have read many stories about the people in E & the one not as in love suddenly realizes how full his heart is & rushes off to the tower to rescue his love and they ride off into the sunset, I have never seen it happen. I don’t care how much he says he loves you, if he is married run, don’t walk,  away as far and as fast as you can, do not pass go, do not collect two hundred dollars. The ages of children can be worked out, if you are both very clear about the role you will play in their lives, again, open and honest. I have no desire to parent a small child all their lives again, but I have love in my heart for lots of kids and am willing to be their friend. For the 40ish who have never had a child, they should get that chance, they should marry someone who also wants a family, that chance to be a parent is a lot to give up.

If you are thinking that as the Queen of Failed Relationships I should not be giving advice about dating, you’re wrong. In my last 10 years of single blessedness I have dated a lot, and have the scars to prove it. I have dated good ones and bad ones, ones I could have fallen for and some that have fallen for me. I have not yet, however, dated the one to end all dating, maybe someday I will, hard to say. I am a very practical person, as well as honest, and someone should get to learn from all my experience.

If a person is cheating on someone else to be with you, they will cheat on you too. You are not that different, nor that special, I’m sorry. A cheater is a manipulator who will say anything to get what he or she wants. If you feel like you are being manipulated get away. If the person you are dating has no respect for you,  belittles you,  yells at you, or hits you this is dangerous behavior, get out now while you still can. Chances are very high that you are not going to fall in love in one or two days on the internet, although you may fall in lust or fascination. Love takes time and closeness to grow. I become fascinated by certain people and desire to know them better, hopefully I get to over time.

Most importantly, use common sense, if something feels wrong then it probably is. If someone seems too good to be true they probably are. Be honest, communicate what you are feeling, be willing to compromise. Don’t pay for everything, but don’t let everything be paid for either. Be willing and open to let love enter your heart, but let it take its time. Keep your own friends and hobbies, your partner should as well. Have a little fun! Some of my favorite dates have included mini-golf, a picnic, the zoo, and cooking together then playing card games. The rules are up to you, you can have many or none, just don’t compromise your values for agreed upon rules. Be yourself, lighten up, and for heaven’s sake never leave 8 voicemails in under an hour. My rule of thumb is one email or text, if it is not answered in several days I will attempt one more. Quite often people do get busy & are working a different schedule than you so it just didn’t work out to call back, don’t take it personally. If you don’t hear anything after the second message move on. There really are more out there! Enjoy yourself, enjoy getting to know each person, relax on timelines and rules, things progress. Even if a relationship is progressing steadily downhill it does still progress and change. Oh, and take the initiative and make them dinner once in a while, or treat, a girl can send flowers to a guy too, although I wouldn’t unless it was a serious relationship. Happy dating!


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.

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My Sister My Friend

My Sister My Friend

My Sister My Friend (CATHERINE SMITH AND ELAINE JEWETT-DONOR)

It all started back when my sister was 19 years old. She got step throat and never finished all of her medication, as she felt better she didn’t think she needed to finish it. Lesson learnt, always complete all medication as prescribed….it is so important to finish it so this doesn’t happened, but who would have known…Each day I watched my sister getting sicker and sicker from this kidney disease.

I was 21 at the time and she was 19, I said to her: “Sis I am going to give you a kidney when the day comes you need it.”

Well in 2004 she was getting sicker and sicker, and started making many trips to the doctors. I went to alot of appointments with her. Then while on one appointment we were asked to go to a meeting regarding transplants, it was only a information meeting but I was so excited, even though she wasn’t ready for a transplant. We went to that meeting a couple of weeks later, and I knew at the moment I was really going to do this, it was my dream coming true, I was going to help save life, not just any life but my sister my friends life….

We came home from that meeting and I was on the phone requesting the information to be sent to me. I received the forms 3 days later, well that same day I filled them out and mailed them right back. So I waited a few days and heard nothing, so again I was on the phone asking when do we start testing.

Within a few weeks it all started, it was real and test after test I called wanting the next test. I guess I was the one pushing for this more than my sister…There was a lot of tests to do, and a little extra due to our family history. So the day of the last test, I was on the edge.

I remember I was on lunch break at the mall and my cell phone rang, it is funny now when I think back to that day, being told in the middle of a shopping center the transplant was in 2 weeks from that day. EXCITED lol just a bit

Well reality set in, I was so excited this was all happening, it was 2 weeks after my sister’s 47th birthday and 6 days before my birthday.So I waited the next 2 weeks, I already waited over 20 years … We had to go to another province for the transplant.

The night before we stayed at a hotel, we talked and laughed and cried, my sister Cathy scared to death and me dancing with excitement.We checked into the hospital the next morning Feb 13, 2008. I was still full of excitement and she was worried about me, I assured her I would be fine….

The surgeon came in later that afternoon and explained the procedure to me. When he said he was taking my left kidney I questioned him, it was just I was left handed and assumed that was my stronger kidney.

A few hours later, my husband and I met the surgeon in the elevator and he looked at me and said ” He took another look”, and was going to take my right kidney, I have no idea to this day why I questioned the surgeon, but it was good I did, the left kidney would not have worked, I believe it was all the prayers and GOD who changed his mind, but I am so glad because the left kidney would not have worked.

The surgery was the next morning at 6:00, I was up and waiting, you would think I was going to go on a trip…lol

My husband and my Mom asked if I was NERVOUS, my reply “NOT AT ALL”, and if I could I would do it all over again. But the main reason for this is just to let people know DONATING SAVE LIVES.

All I can say is “PEOPLE PLEASE DONATE IT SAVES LIVES. I DID IT AND I FEEL GREAT AND LOVE MY SISTER WITH ALL MY HEART…. That was 4 years ago in February and she is still here with us today !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CHEERS

ELAINE JEWETT- ORGAN DONOR

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” – Brandi Snyder
 

Marina Gallagher
Founder Kidney Wishes
Don’t take your organs to heaven with you.
Heaven knows we need them here. ~Author Unknown


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Your body is a temple

Your body is a temple

Your body is a temple; Why treat it like a motel?
~Tom Ferguson
 

 

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Yogurt and Weight Loss

Yogurt is one of the healthiest foods and one of the best options if you’re a weight watcher. It contains substantial amount of proteins: For example, a cup of Greek yogurt contains 40% of the required daily protein intake.
 

 
You can enjoy your yogurt as a snack or you can have it with your food. If you like fruit yogurt, prepare it yourself with freshly-sliced fruit. Don’t add any sugar or jam to your yogurt. Many times, fruit yogurt packages contain lots of sugar.

For some amazing ideas to enjoy your low fat yogurt, click here.
 
Source: The New England Journal of Medicine

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Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes….

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes....

There are days when life is hard, when your body hurts, when you just want to stay in bed; for those of us with a chronic illness or autoimmune disease we have days when getting out of bed isn’t even an option, no matter what we want to do, or have scheduled that day.

Recently I was advised to seek medical retirement, my heart is still in nursing but my body just can’t keep up with my desires at this point. I have had a few people question me about my smiling face and good attitude, I believe I have mentioned before that I am a firm believer in forcing a smile until it becomes a real one. Honestly, I have been in limbo for well over a year and to know for sure what my next step is, is a huge relief. I always knew my body could not take the physical part of nursing forever, I just thought I had 10 or 15 years left and now poof, they are over. Maybe now is better, while I am young enough to turn my life in a different direction.

I have spent most of my nursing career in gerontology and I absolutely love it, that part of my life does not have to be over, I am hoping to volunteer some hours, spend some 1:1 time, do all the things busy nurses have a hard time finding time for some days. I also can spend some time traveling, reading, trying new recipes, all the things I have never had time for before.

I am not always happy, I don’t know anyone who is, but, I am always at peace, and that is a beautiful thing. I am content that where I am in my life is exactly where I am supposed to be, and this is not a disaster, or the end of the story, it’s the beginning of a new act. Inner peace assures that no matter what life throws at us, even if we are completely unprepared, it also helps us to face trouble with a modicum of grace.

There have been nights I cried, and have been scared, it is sometimes hard for me to give it up to God, I have a tendency to try and take it back, which is not fully trusting. I find that meditation helps one regain equilibrium, as does exercise, prayer, good friends, etc.

When exercising I had to learn to stop comparing myself to the way I was prior to being sick, this actually is true of all things physical, instead I compare myself to when I first had sudden onset of symptoms and how much better I am since then. On Easter I went to services at Mt. Rushmore with a couple friends, I was a little upset that the walk was so hard for me,but then I realized, this is the farthest I have been able to walk in months! Success! I stopped thinking of myself as someone “broken,” I am a realist, if nothing else, this is who I am now, I choose to see what I am still capable of doing, changes I am still able to make, rather than be sad about who I was before, that is an unfair comparison, might as well compare my butt now to when I was 17, it’s never going to be like that again… but… it is very good now, and will continue to be good, maybe even better.

My advice to my loved ones would be, sometimes look behind the smile, don’t push when I say I’m too tired for something, and if I forget to tell you how grateful I am for your friendship please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I am thankful, every day.


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.
 
 


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Good vs Evil

To obtain personal growth and satisfaction with yourself and your body at any size we must first learn to stop labeling our food, “good food” and “bad food,” do not blame your size issues on the poor innocent food! The food was delicious, granted, but we wanted it to be, so therefore it was meeting our needs at that time. There are healthier choices, and not as healthy choices, that’s it.

via Chicken Billy (Flickr)

One food commonly regarded as evil is pizza. Pizza is beautiful, it smells good, it looks good,  it is good; why do you want to paint a tail and horns on that poor pizza? You can change the way you make it, thin crust, preferably whole wheat, part-skim cheese and less of it, use lots of vegetable, use a marinara full of veggies too, you can even buy turkey pepperoni these days. Another tip, one or 2 small slices of pizza is just as delicious as eating a whole one. Eat a big salad first, or a plate of cruciferous vegetables, drink a big glass of water, if you have less room you’ll be less tempted to eat too much.


Cookies or chocolate are more much aligned food choices, it is way worse for you to feel deprived and like you “must not eat the evil bad cookies” than to eat one or two cookies, healthier cookie options abound, as do recipes to make your own. As I have stated before, one piece of decadent chocolate allowed to melt on your tongue will cure any craving for a few calories.

Battered and deep fried foods are another one, when I am eating with kids they pay a “mommy tax” which means I get one or two french fries, or one onion ring, better yet divide one order among the whole family, all things in moderation.

There are no magic foods, there is one, and only one, magic solution to weight loss, burn more than you take in. Use moderation in all things. Do not judge yourself as bad or unworthy, and believe it or not, you can eat too much of healthier choices and not lose. Be well on your journey and think of your food as purposeful, and yes delicious, fuel for the machine of your body.


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.

 
 

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The Power of Kindness

The Power of Kindness

“It takes a simple-minded man to linger around those who are praised, yet
a courageous man to pick up those who have fallen.”¯Daniel Chidiac

Walking through Bourke Street Mall, the main street in the heart of
Melbourne, Australia, I passed a distressed man sitting against a shop
front. Near him lay a beanie, a cup, and a dirty backpack. Knees up and
head bent, it seemed as if he had given up all hope. I put some coins in
his cup, and continued on. On my way back I decided to sit down on a chair
across from him. As I sat watching people walk past, deliberately staying
clear and acting as if he were an alien, I couldn’t help but feel
compassion. I walked over to him, knelt down, gave him $10 and said, “Do
you mind if I have a chat with you, sir?” He looked up and said no. I sat
right next to him in the same position as he was. It was an eye-opener to
watch people walk past from down there. I then recognized that this man
was disabled. His hands were deformed and he could hardly get the words
out to speak. He mumbled that the government had shut down his hospital.
He also had a volunteer who used to look after him, but they had also
left. This gentleman was one of the nicest individuals I have ever met. He
told that me that the previous day he had been spat on, kicked in the
face, and called a retard.

What amazed me was his attitude toward life. He said he would help those
people if they needed his help, regardless of what they did to him. He
even thanked God that he was shown manners as a child. He prays to God
every morning and says thank you for being alive. He said that he knows
God will watch over him and provide. He hasn’t been let down yet and has
taken his challenge as a way of life that he must deal with the best way
he can. He understands that these people that ridicule him are only
affecting themselves and battling their inner turmoil.

As we continued to chat I noticed he sat up and created more energy. I
seemed to forget everyone else around while talking until something
wonderful happened. It appeared that when I cared, others suddenly did as
well. People began walking up and dropping money in his cup. Another man
brought food and people were smiling in our direction. I told him to smile
back, and he did. This one moment touched my heart and I will never forget
it. Graham taught me the power of what one person can do. Sometimes it
takes one person to stir up the “giving energy” and others will follow.

This man has had so many challenges in his life yet has such a positive
outlook. He even loves the people that beat him, and has such strong
faith. He assured me that he does not beg, but has faith God will provide.
He said whenever he starts to complain he thinks of all the people that
were kicked out of the hospital that were far worse off than him. He is
compassionate towards the human race and said his dream is for equality.
What a golden moment in life.

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Excerpt from “Who Says You Can’t? YOU DO” by Daniel Chidiac. Being
released early 2012.
 Daniel Chidiac has dedicated his life to finding the answers to “why some
people are living an extraordinary life, while others are never really
fulfilled?” Through his journey he has modeled the most successful people
known to man, traveled overseas to meet with leaders who have the
strongest mindset on the planet, interacted with exceptional achievers and
coached people from all the around the globe. For more words of wisdom
from Daniel, please visit him on Facebook.
 

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Be Patient… God Hasn’t Finished with me Yet

Be Patient... God Hasn't Finished with me Yet

That was on a notebook I had in 6th or 7th grade, it had a Precious Moments character and   was textured so you could put paper over it & copy the design. I have always thought it was such a beautiful thought, and I think it is a reminder for ourselves rather than other people. We need to learn patience with ourselves, our faults and foibles, and be comfortable with our brokenness.

I love the idea that I am not done growing, not done learning, not done evolving into the person I was intended to be. I am worlds away from the 19 year old newlywed with a baby, I am also different from the terrified 34 year old that walked away from a bad marriage. I used to wish to hurry and change, to hurry and get where I am supposed to be, until I realized that the journey is where I am supposed to be, I need to learn every lesson from each situation so that I can move on to the next level.
 

 

I think continuing to grow and learn keeps our mindsets young and fresh, open to possibilities. I also love spending time with children to see anew the joy and wonder of everyday things, everything from butterflies to a first encounter with an automatic flush, seeing the wonder in life keeps us from becoming jaded when our journey becomes long.

Embrace your imperfect self, and be thankful for each opportunity to learn and grow, and share that knowledge with others. I am a work in progress, but as long as I ever strive for personal betterment it makes for a wonderful journey. We are all in different places on our life journey, so be patient with those you come into contact with, God is not finished with them either, what wonderful news! It is not too late to improve, nor is it ever.

 

About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.
 


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Love, Love, Love…

Love, Love, Love...

I think for a long time after my divorce I looked so hard for love that I probably scared away every opportunity for it to enter my life again. What I didn’t know then, and am glad to know now, is that all the love I have ever wanted or needed I already have, it is all inside me.

Love is everything, it really is all that matters, and when you truly love yourself you are amazed at all the love you have for everything around you. I love God. I love my two children. I love my daughter-in-love. I love my granddaughter. I love my mom. I love my dad. I love my sister, her husband, her four children and her dog. I love dozens of friends, a multitude of cousins, that super sweet cashier that always asks about the baby, and even my mom’s husband, kind of, it’s progress.

I love thunderstorms, I love being on a motorcycle and feeling the wind in my face. I love dogs, I love cats, I love horses, I love seeing the deer and rabbits in my yard. I love the intoxicating aroma of the budding lilacs outside my back door. I love sunset in the mountains. I love sunset over a lake, I love sunrises too. I love the colors green and purple, and all the other colors of the rainbow and elsewhere. I love to laugh. I love a good cry. I love sunny warm days, and I love making soup on cold days.

I love Spring, I love Summer, I love Autumn, I love Winter. Every season is my favorite, every niece and nephew is my favorite. I love my house, I love my car, I love my car’s sunroof. I love music, and dancing, and singing, and how I feel after a good workout. I love my hands in the dirt in the spring, the taste of home grown vegetables, a good cup of coffee in the morning, a nice meal prepared by someone else, the smell of food on the grill.

I love lilacs, daisies, peonies, orchids, and seeing a lovely bouquet on a table. I love lilies of the valley, towering pine trees, majestic oaks, mountain streams, fishing with my dad, the beauty of where I live. I love classical music, old rock, country, blues, jazz, and the birds of spring and summer. I love texts from my niece, when girls I have worked with grow up and become excellent nurses, and when they are kind enough to give me some credit for that. I love the freedom to write what amuses me and having other people read it.

Having so much love pour out of me how could I possibly feel I lack for anything? Do I still miss romantic love? Yes, sometimes, but I do not need it, and I am not actively searching for it. My life is filled with so many blessings, I feel so blessed.  Love, really, is all you need.

Love is all you need….


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.

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Boring nuts? Toast ’em for omega-3s!

Boring nuts? Toast 'em for omega-3s!

This commentary is originally from NewJerseyNewsroom.com
BY VICKY DeROSA

You know what gets a bad rap?

Nuts!

Listen my friends, nuts are an extraordinary way to get omega-3s.

Don’t be so fearful of the calories, just don’t overeat them. In fact, have you considered toasting your nuts? This is an amazing snack and so simple to do.

In a shallow baking pan place chopped almonds, chopped walnuts, sunflower seeds and pumpkin seeds (actually, you can use any nuts you like) place in a preheated oven at 425 degrees. That’s it; just roast them in a hot oven. Just keep checking, ovens will vary.

Nuts from Roger's Wife (Flickr)

What you are looking for is a nice golden brown color. I sprinkle these toasty little treats on so many different meals. They just seem to make everything taste better. Great on oatmeal, salad, fruit, yogurt; actually anything you can think of.

I have been eager to remind you to toast your nuts, and since we were on the subject of omega 3s I thought it would be a great opportunity. Try it as soon as you can, keep some of them whole and carry them around with you; they really do make a healthy treat. Don’t worry about the calories; you should make them a part of your day.

Now let’s change the subject to eggs. I feel it important to share this expert opinion from one of our physicians. I must say it’s kind of crazy how often I hear people avoid the yolks.

There has never been a study that verifies a link between cardiovascular disease and egg consumption. Eggs are one of nature’s most complete, balanced foods. Of course, the best eggs are from chickens that have been raised as “free range” who eat pesticide free, anti-biotic and growth hormone free diets and whose omega-3 fats are

elevated.

The problem with eggs might just be the way you prepare them (fried is the least healthy). You might want to consider putting them in a blender raw as part of your healthy morning shake with some greens, almond milk, whey protein, etc.

Vicky DeRosa is Founder and CEO of Studio V Health Corp. For more information check out www.studiovhealth.com.


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Journey begins

Journey begins

My name is Sujatha. I’m from India,more precisely from South India. How I landed on Positive Med is a sweet story.

Few days ago, I published a post in my blog. It took nearly two months for me to write that post.  Usually if I take more than a week to write a post, I’ll call it off.  But somehow something made me stick on to this post.  Also I had so many good signs while writing the blog.  I’m a super believer in God.  So I don’t believe anything be it signs,astrology or whatever.  But this time around the signs were so evident, it was impossible for me to pooh-pooh it.  I started having an intuition that I’m going to get something out of this post.  And with the thought I published the post in the morning.  I started checking my blogger dashboard every 20 minutes for comments.  I didn’t get any comments like I thought.   Monday morning when I opened my inbox, and there it was “my intuition/my expectation”, in the form of a mail from PositiveMed.  They invited/gave me an opportunity to begin a positive journey  in PositiveMed.

journey by aepoc (Flickr)

So here I’m embarking my journey accompanied by you all.  While in this journey, I would like to learn a lot and share a lot.  Today being our New Year, I thought I would start something good and so here I am. On this special day we make a dish that has 6 tastes(sweet,bitter, sour, pungent, astringent and salt) to symbolize that life is full of varied tastes.  Likewise, I do have different traits but since starting this journey I wish to have only one trait “Be Positive”.

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Baby’s Got the Blues

Baby's Got the Blues

Once in a while I am struck by a deep sadness, occasionally it’s for no good reason, most often it’s because something has happened in my life that causes me to question myself, my values, people I thought were deserving of trust, etc. It leaves me feeling naked, vulnerable, and unsure… although I do have a backup plan for these days.

Music soothes the savage beast they say, and it always helps to untangle my thoughts into a smoother version. Quite often I prefer to listen to songs about love and loss on these days, followed by classics that make me happy, and songs of faith and strength.

Bubble baths are an awesome way to turn a frown upside down, a nice warm soothing soak that smells good… light a candle, bring a glass of wine, relax and enjoy. Exercise is the best cure for the blues that I can ever think of, especially Zumba, hard to listen to that music and swing your hips without a smile appearing on your face.

I prefer to not be around other people on these days, I would never want a friend to think it has anything to do with them, other people may choose to hang out with friends, it’s a personal choice. I also try hard not to talk about what is bothering me while I am sad, if anyone asks I say “I will be fine thank you” other than that I do not feel obligated to share my personal feelings. If you have to work or deal with the public just force yourself to smile, a lot… I say fake it ’til you make it, it never fails to amaze me how painting on a smile can lead to a real one.

Count your blessings. Really. Compare your blessings to your troubles and your troubles seem smaller by comparison, it works every time. Be patient with yourself, you are allowed to not sparkle every minute of every day. Have faith that this is just a normal passing moment and it will get better, bad moments end as surely as good ones do.

I like to think of myself as a positive thinker,  I also allow myself time to be sad when necessary. A good cry clears the brain of cobwebs and opens possibilities in your heart and mind. Just make sure to return to your positive thoughts once the moment has passed, learn from your sadness and see if there is a cause you can avoid in the future. Embrace yourself, you deserve it, and if you have a dog or a child near enough get a big hug as well, nothing brightens my day like a kiss from my 10 month old granddaughter. If all else fails, call a friend, call your mom, find a cookie, send an email… send ME an email, all will be well, believe that and make it true.

 

About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.

 

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The Art of Forgiveness

The Art of Forgiveness

Forgiveness can be a difficult topic, there is no wrong way, and no right way to forgive someone, or to forgive ourselves. The forgiveness itself is the essential piece no matter how you do it.  Don’t ever think in terms of someone “deserving” your anger, or your hatred, or your revenge.

 Holding on to hate will hurt you much more than it hurts the person you are hating, it creates stress, wrinkles, and can change your personality. After my divorce I was carrying around a lot of anger, I didn’t even know how much until I let it go… it was such a cleansing experience, I cried for hours. My kids used to call me “Old Yeller” because I was always mad about something, which was hurting them and hurting me.

To decide someone “deserves” your anger also places you in judgment, it is not your place to judge, not even of yourself. Self-loathing creates a multitude of problems as well, including but not limited to; depression, hypertension, anxiety, obesity, and ulcers.

There are several ways to forgive someone, I like a visual so to write all their wrongs on a piece of paper, then burn the paper is quite cleansing. You could also put them in a bottle and send them out to sea (the ocean has no memory) or bury them in your backyard, the essential part of the exercise is letting them go, and fly away into the wind where they can cause no harm to anyone, especially you, because you don’t deserve to carry that around.

Does anyone remember the old story of an old woman hunched down in chains, and when love is offered she is young, beautiful, and free? That is honestly how it feels, forgiveness is nothing more than love, love being offered no matter what. If you can’t bring yourself to love a person that has wronged you, at least love yourself enough to let it go. Love yourself enough to not want to carry those heavy burdens of hate chaining you to the ground.

Forgiveness can take a long time, you may have to “let it go” more than once, but the end results will be worth it.  Make your life as beautiful as you can. Be grateful that you have a heart big enough to forgive. It’s your life, live it as freely as you are able. Your steps will be lighter, your heart will be happier. You cannot change the past, but every  second of every day you are given the opportunity to start with a fresh new outlook. Live well, live wisely.


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.

 

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Ray is a hero, a life saver

Ray is a hero, a life saver

By:Marina Gallagher

For many living donors, donation is one of the most amazing experiences in their lives, and yet people remain afraid of becoming a donor, before or even after death.

Is it the lack of facts that drive this fear? Misinformation?

The first successful kidney transplant took place in America in 1954, the donor lived to be 87.

Studies show that living kidney donors tend to live longer than non-donors.

Kidneys transplanted from an adult donor into an infant or small child has the greatest chance of success of any organ transplant in any age group, and yet people believe that children can not accept adult kidney (which it totally untrue).

There are currently 97,941 in the US waiting for a kidney, of those 860 are children.

Ray is a hero, a life saver. He didn’t let fear or misinformation stop him. He learned the facts and made the choice to save a life.

This is a part of Ray’s story: ” One of the top five happiest days of my life was this past Tuesday, the day of my surgery.  It rates right after the day of my marriage and the days my three children were born.  My dream of sharing my spare kidney was fulfilled, and I learned that the recipient was doing well with it.

Furthermore, through the National Kidney Registry, the recipient had a donor willing to “pay it forward,” and this began a kidney chain that would result in three others getting a new kidney that week.”

To read more on Ray’s story visit Ray’s blog
Wishing you all good things,

Marina Gallagher
Founder Kidney Wishes
Don’t take your organs to heaven with you.
Heaven knows we need them here. ~Author Unknown


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Health Benefits of Sunflower Seeds

Health Benefits of Sunflower Seeds

[Last updated: September 28th 2012]
Sunflower seeds are excellent source of vitamins B1, B5 and E. Vitamin E is a very important vitamin that acts as an antioxidants in our bodies and fights against free radicals. Therefore vitamin-E is considered as an anti-aging and immune-booster vitamin. More importantly women, specially pregnant and breast-feeding women need to have more intake of vitamin E. The good news is, only 50 grams of sunflower seeds kernel provides 100% of the recommended dietary allowance for vitamin E.

These seeds are a good source of minerals such as magnesium, potassium, iron and manganese.
Also sunflower seeds contain some amino acids, dietary fiber and linoleic acid (an essential fatty acid). Those who should limit their fat consumption can also benefit from sunflower seeds, because these seeds contain good fats and they also lower LDL (bad cholesterol) and raise HDL (good cholesterol).

You can enjoy your sunflower seeds kernels on breads or muffins for a breakfast with nutty flavor;
Or Sprinkle them on your salad; Or add them to yogurt for a delicious healthy snack. You can make sunflower seed butter with them or you can prepare some pesto with it. Keep calm and eat sunflower seeds!


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Keeping Motivation Strong When the Scale Stops Moving

Keeping Motivation Strong When the Scale Stops Moving

There is nothing more frustrating than following your eating and exercise plan and seeing no changes on the scale for a week, or 2 weeks, or even 3… Take a deep breath, it could just be some minor tweaks are needed.

1) When was the last time you changed your cardio exercise? Your body will adapt in time to the same old thing, so try something new and give your metabolism a swift kick… try Zumba, kickboxing, spinning, hiking, or inline skating, just something different.

2) Are you eating enough? Yes, enough. Keeping a food diary is essential, as is seeing your eating patterns. I have always thought of myself as a healthy eater, I was stunned by how many days I was not eating enough calories… and then a day here and there of going over normal, your metabolism stands still as it doesn’t know how to respond! Think of your body as a sports car, it needs proper fuel for peak performance… this analogy is also helpful when you think about how bad sugar is for your gas tank AND your body…

3) Take a look at yourself in the mirror, a good look, I like to do this fresh from the shower.  My skin looks so fresh and rosy, my pores are small, my hair is thick and shiny; all of this is from the changes I have made to make my body healthier, what I put in it and what I keep out of it. Think about the last time you ate a meal out without conscious thought of what makes your body feel good, or how good you feel from meeting your weekly workout goals.

You didn’t get your body unhealthy in a day, you won’t blink your eyes and be where you want to be healthwise. Relax. Ease up on yourself. Learn to love you and your body in all its stages. You will get there, of course you will.


About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…


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Blueberries health benefits

Blueberries health benefits

Fruits and veggies are the best sources of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. These substances may help us to have a healthier body and protect us against many diseases and aging.

Blueberries are excellent sources of fiber, which helps to maintain gastrointestinal health. Also blueberries help to strength the cardiovascular system. Interestingly, blueberries lower cholesterol and triglycerides.
Have you ever been on a diet? Well now add blueberries in your healthy diet and exercise program to see a flatter stomach. Blueberries contain extreme amounts of antioxidants and vitamins, which makes blueberries a super-fruit in fight against aging.