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How Dishonesty Can Affect Mental Health

How Dishonesty Can Affect Mental Health

How Dishonesty Can Affect Mental Health

Do you remember the last day you did not tell a lie all day? Most of us can’t remember a day without at least a white lie, we often think there is no harm in telling lies for a good cause. You may be surprised to learn the after-effects of telling lies and dishonesty and reconsider your beliefs.

Lying can lead to stress, unhappiness, and damaged mental health. Researchers say honesty is indeed the best policy, as frequent lying can lead to headaches, sore throat, and feelings of sadness.

What Dishonesty Actually Does to Your Brain

Anita Kelly, Professor of Psychology at the University of Notre Dame, Indiana, conducted a study on 110 adults. She spent 10 weeks with the participants, urging half of the participants not to lie throughout the study period while the remaining half were not given any specific instructions. All participants knew they would be required to keep track of how many lies or ‘fibs‘ they told each day. They each take a lie detector test every week and answer a questionnaire regarding their mental and physical health as well as the quality of their relationships.

Both teams lied less during the testing period, but the group asked to stop lying showed health improvements. Kelly stated, “We established very clearly that purposefully trying not to lie caused people to tell fewer lies. When they told more lies, their health went down. And when they told the truth, it improved.” The bigger the lie, the worse it is for your health. If you think that small, innocent lies don’t cause damage, you are wrong. They also discovered that telling three less lies per week resulted in four less mental health issues and physical complaints three fewer times.

Besides this research, lying has been linked to increased production of stress hormones, faster heartbeat, increased perspiration, and increased blood pressure. Excess stress caused reduces white blood cells which can result in increased back pain, stress headaches, menstrual problems, and fertility issues.

Arthur Markman, Ph.D., Executive Editor of the journal Cognitive Science, explains that the moment you tell a lie, the stress caused of cooking up the story causes your nervous system to secrete cortisol into our brain. If the lie is too big, one can even experience the adrenaline rush. Pupils dilate and the person begins to sweat.

Within a few minutes of telling a lie your brain struggles to maintain a track record of what you know and what you said. This can take a toll professionally as it affects working memory, the one that helps with decision making and problem solving. This hampers the brain’s ability to make smart decisions and might contribute to some people telling bigger lies to cover the first small lie.

As time passes you may get angry at the person you lied to, which is not really anger, but a sense of guilt for telling a lie.

You may start to worry about the fact that you lied to a person you love, you may compensate by being overly solicitous while your brain tries to justify your lie.

Staying honest can get you into trouble for the present, but the honesty will yield improved health and make things better for you in the long run.

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Loving Someone With Mental Illness

Loving Someone With Mental Illness

Loving Someone With Mental Illness
By PositiveMed-team
Edited By Stephanie Dawson

If you are having difficulty accepting the mental illness of a relative or other loved one you should know that many are dealing with similar issues. Most share the belief that mental illness of a close relative is a tragic event that will change their lives, in some ways that may be true. Strange unpredictable can be a devastating experience and the level of anxiety can increase with each episode of the disease.

It can seem like an impossible task to care for someone who does not want to be cared for, and sometimes seems they are not taking care of themselves. People with mental illness, and their families, often realize they learned long ago knowledge and skills to cope with their illnesses. They discover strengths they didn’t know they had and learn to handle other life situations and challenges.

Loving Someone With Mental Illness

Here are some recommendations on handling the mental illness of a family member:
Find truthful scientific information from your doctor or validated sources. Ask your professional anything that can resolve your urges and doubts. Speaking with other families that have the disease is an excellent strategy of learning more about the conditions, there are often support groups for this.

You cannot cure their mental illness but you can help them handle it, minimize symptoms, or improve quality of life.
No one is at fault, it’s a disease. Try not to place blame on them or yourself.

Mental illness will affect the family system and all members of the family handle it in different ways. It can become an stressor, it depends in the needs and resources we have.

Sometimes we need to accept our limitations as individuals and as a family, sometimes people can’t accept that, it’s a process.

Avoid labeling with negative statements, separate the illness from the person, the person is not defined by the illness, it needs to be defined by its potential not by limitations.

It’s normal to feel abandoned, everyone has needs and desires, you need to make yourself a priority from time to time. The needs of your mentally ill loved ones are not necessarily top priority in your life.

Mental illness is not a reason for shame or public exposure.

Set realistic expectations of the needs and desire of the family.

Don’t be afraid to ask if he or she is thinking of hurting himself or others. People with mental illness commit suicide more frequently.

Give them responsibilities, don’t assume all of them yourself, give him or her some challenges.
Express your feelings, talk about what you need, what you fear, and what you expect.
You are not alone, look for support groups and meetings with people that are caretakers or with experts.

Look for the positive side: you will become more resilient, sensitive, receptive, communicative, and mature with this experience. You will become less egocentric and more altruistic, feeling the joy of helping those you love.