Relationships are hard to navigate whether you’re on the rocks or madly in love. In the first scenario, you struggle with memories of the good times and periods of happiness mixed in with arguments and sleepless nights. In the second, everything seems like you’ve always dreamed and you might be ready to take things to the next level, but you don’t know how to tell whether this really is the right relationship to settle down with. These 10 signs you’re in the right relationship can serve as a checklist. They can either point toward affirmation everything is going well or help you to identify points that you and your partner need to work on.
1. You Communicate Effectively
Communication is vital to every relationship, but when it comes to romance, lack of proper communication can destroy everything. Healthy couples communicate verbally and are comfortable with expressing their feelings – both positive and negative – and can do so in a way that isn’t defensive or inflammatory.
2. You Enjoy Doing Things Together
Couples in the right relationship have mutual interests that they enjoy doing when they’re together. This can be going to concerts, biking or even a creative endeavor like a painting. What’s important is that you aren’t constantly having to switch off on activities that one person loves and the other is just tolerating.
3. You Have Separated Lives
You shouldn’t only confide in your significant other or not have a social life beyond your relationship. The word “partner” implies that they are doing something alongside you, not consuming your life altogether. Happy relationships happen when couples respect one another’s interests and encourage each other to practice them solo.
4. You Are Still You When You’re with Them
Too many people change who they are to either attract someone’s attention or maintain a relationship. One great way to know you’re with the right person is that they accept you 100 percent for who you are and you don’t ever find yourself modifying your opinions, thoughts, wants or dreams based on how you worry they’ll respond.