10 Ways to Find Out if She is Making a Fool Out of You
It is difficult for most men to admit when they’re being strung along by a woman. For some, it’s a pride thing. For others, it’s about not knowing how to read the signs. Below are tend ways to tell whether she’s making a fool out of you.
The Text Trap
Who sends the first text? If you’re always contacting her first, you may be dealing with a woman who’s only in it for the thrill of being chased. Experiment with this by changing up your contact patterns – if you can stop contacting her and the frequency of your conversations drops precipitously, you’re probably being strung along.
The Friends and Family Plan
Do you know her friends and family? If you’ve been dating for more than a few weeks, you should have some contact with those she cares about. If you haven’t met anyone in her life, you should be a bit suspicious. She might be excited by the thrill of a secret relationship, sure, but it’s more likely there is some reason she’s keeping you secret.
What do you call the person you date? If she introduces you to friends – and especially male friends – as just another friend, you know you’re being led on. Don’t let the “let’s not use labels” thing fool you if you’re not on the same page. If she’s interested in a relationship, the labels won’t matter. If she’s not, you’ll find that the labels are more carefully avoided.
One of the most common relationship stereotypes is that women tend to run hot and cold. In reality, you can tell how much someone cares for you by how they act towards you. If she’s only interested in you when you’re not available or when you’re pulling away, you’re looking at someone who is only interested in your attention rather than in your company.
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There’s nothing wrong with playing the field. With that said, a woman who’s still dating other guys probably isn’t going to be relationship material. If your’e honest, this isn’t something you can pin on her at all – you knew what you were getting into when you started dating. It’s a good sign that she’s not invested in a long-term relationship, though, if she’s got someone else on the side.
Does she remember the little things? While it’s a staple of sitcoms to have a forgetful partner, those of in the real world have an amazing memory for those about whom they care. If she can’t remember the little things like your favorite band (or bigger things, like your middle name), it’s very likely that she isn’t as invested in you as you are in her.
Avoiding the Issues
As much as it’s nice to look for signs of being lead on, the only surefire way to know what’s going on is to ask. The great thing about this is that you’ll know one way or another even if she doesn’t give you a straight answer. A woman who won’t tell you if she’s leading you on probably has something to hide, so pay attention to what she doesn’t say.
“Maybe later” – these are power play words, to be sure. It’s a great way of saying no, but keeping interest. You know she’s leading you on if she always makes sure to rebuff your plans with the promise of doing something in the nebulous future. Unless you get a precise date, you might as well accept the fact that she’s got no real interest.
The Neat Freak
Is she overly concerned about whether you leave stuff at her place? Is she careful to make sure nothing of hers ends up at yours? If so, you’ve got a clear example of a woman who’s trying not to get too close.
The Not Right Now
As made famous by How I Met Your Mother, this is one of the key phrases that you can use to determine if a woman is leading you on. If you’re looking to get serious, she’ll let you know that she’s not looking for a relationship – at least, not right now. This is a method of keeping you on the hook, and it’s a clear sign that she’s leading you on.