5 Fixes for Your Negative Relationship Habits
Habits in relationships are inevitable, both good and bad. Here are 5 habits to avoid.
1. Taking Advantage
The Habit: You worked late and don’t want to stop for gas. You decide to go home and let your Sweetie handle it. How thoughtful are you to let your Sugar-Buns have this opportunity to show you their love?
The Result: You haven’t filled the gas tank or made your own cup of coffee for 6 months. Your Love didn’t do these things with the expectation of getting something in return, but now you’re in the habit of not having to do for yourself. Your partner is feeling taken advantage of.
The Fix: Start showing a little more gratitude and curb your sense of expectation. This will stem the feeling of resentment that is most likely brewing in your partner.
2. There is No One You Can’t Fix
The Habit: Your Honey Bunny is always late for the annual insurance enrollment and can never get their taxes filed on time. You have a plan to help fix these flaws.
The Result: As a fellow Problem Solver I speak from experience when I say this is a slippery slope. Once you decide your partner is a problem to be solved, you send the message that they aren’t good enough.
The Fix: Support your partner in their life challenges or simply decide to accept their flaws. Either way, your partners change begins within, not with you.
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3. You’re A Score Keeper
The Habit: You think everything should be equal right down to the household chores. Your desire for equality is great, it’s the extremity of that desire that changes how your partner perceives you.
The Result: Being a score keeper can lead to resentment. Once you start putting tally marks on your relationship you create an environment where your partner feels judged and criticized, and you feel as though you’re always carrying the load.