20 Signs You Take Your Relationship More Seriously Than Your Partner
Finding love is always an enchanting thing, but after the initial butterflies settle, it comes time to think long term. The answer to “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” may invoke an instant response, one that’s rosy and sweet and involves you achieving your goals with your beloved by your side. But this image in your head may be obscured by a cloud of self-doubt and a nagging sensation that something isn’t exactly as it should be. The missing piece to the puzzle in your relationship could be that one of you is more committed than the other. When it comes to love, most of us play all or nothing, and we shouldn’t settle for anything less with a romantic partner. If you’ve been pondering your future with your significant other and are starting to ask the heavy questions, here are 20 signs you take your relationship more serious than your partner to help guide you toward resolution.
1. You Never Fight
This may seem like bliss to some couples, especially when compared to their friends who area always going on about their latest spat with their boyfriend or girlfriend. However, healthy arguing is a sign of closeness. The more people learn about one another and coexist, the more likely they are to find areas in which they disagree. In a stable relationship, effective communication, and mutual respect leads to conductive resolution, which gives way to both individual and couple growth. No fighting at all is a sign that you two aren’t close enough to argue, and that you or your partner aren’t sharing their full opinions and emotions with you.
2. They Never Call
You may have thought they were playing hard to get. Perhaps the challenge was once exciting and drew your toward them, but if you’re in a serious relationship, you shouldn’t be the only one checking in. Couples who are in love want to talk to one another, and each one will take the initiative to call. Not because they have to, but because they want to.
3. You Always Pick the Date
If your partner doesn’t find places they think you will enjoy and eagerly arrange to take you to them, then they probably aren’t as serious as they should be. After all, you always want to put a smile on their face and most likely put the extra thought into finding new restaurants and fun activities to do together. Why don’t they?
4. They Don’t Invite You Anywhere
This goes right in hand with the arrangement of dates. Couples do have their own respective personal lives, but their significant other does become a large part of it once their relationship because more serious. If your partner doesn’t invite you to do things they like, hang out with their friends or anywhere else that they frequent, take that as a sign they don’t view you as a big enough part of their life to include.
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5. You’ve Never Met Their Friends
Our friends reflect us, and when you’ve found someone who you consider to be a serious part of your life, you want them to meet the people who you consider the closest. Not introducing you to their friends leaves you excluded and points to a deeper problem.
6. You Haven’t Met Their Family
The family are even more important than friends, and when a relationship truly matters to someone and they envision a future, they’ll want you to be a part of the home they already have established. Failure to reach this point usually means that they don’t see you as one of their own.
7. Your Family Warns You About Them
There can be plenty of cases in which parents or relatives are overprotective, but most of the time, others can see what we can’t. If your family hints or flat out tells you that your partner doesn’t seem fully committed, it’s time to do some introspection and evaluate the relationship.
8. They’re Forgetful
It doesn’t matter how busy they are. No one who truly cares about you will forget your birthday, anniversary or other important events.
9. They Make Excuses
A lack of accountability and excuses made to keep the peace are used in place of honesty when someone doesn’t care enough to actually communicate.
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10. They Lie
It isn’t okay to make up stories about their whereabouts, who they’re talking to or anything else. If they deliberately falsify aspects of their life to yo, there’s a reason, and it isn’t to protect you or simply because they “didn’t want to upset you.”
11. They Don’t Comfort You
A partner who doesn’t shows empathy and interest in your problems is one who doesn’t value your feelings.
12. They Never Remember Anything About You
You could recite their middle name, favorite food and childhood memories at the drop of a hat, but they’re always seeming to forget details about you, whether it’s your birthday or even the topic of your last conversation.
13. They Don’t Challenge You
A serious partner will comfort and encourage us, but they’ll also dish out some tough love when we need it and push us toward being the best versions of ourselves – the versions that they already love and admire and want you to love too.
14. They Give Thoughtless Gifts
Roses, chocolates, teddy bears; they’re all great gift ideas for someone you’ve just started dating, but the thought behind gifts should deepen as time progress and feelings evolve.
15. They Don’t Say “I Love You”
This may seem like a no-brainer, but many people may not realize until the point is brought up that they’re always the one to say “I love you” while their partner is merely the recipient of affection. Saying “I love you too” doesn’t make up for the fact they never let you know how they feel on their own. If you have to ask for someone to tell you they love you, do you really want it anyway?
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16. They Disregard Your Concerns
If you bring up worries about your future or the state of your relationship and they tell you it’s nothing, you’re being a worrywart or to stop overanalyzing, chances are they just don’t care enough about what’s bothering you to get to the bottom of it.
17. You Don’t Feel Fully Comfortable Around Them
If you’re choosing your words, rehearsing conversations in your head and not able to fully let loose and be 100 percent you, then you aren’t with someone who is as accepting of you as they should be.
18. You’re Always Sad When They’re Gone
Because you know that when you’re apart, they won’t be calling, texting or reaching out the way you wish they would, or even show the sort of affection that they might when you two are together.
19. You’ve broken Up
If things ended the first time because they weren’t fully committed or were even unfaithful, things probably won’t be any different a second time around, no matter what they say. Actions speak louder than words.
20. You Believe They Don’t Care About You
When it comes to something as intimate as love, you have to trust your gut. Your brain may not want to accept reality, but if your heart is telling you that someone isn’t giving you their all and making you feel loved with the same intensity that you love them, it’s probably time to let go and find the happiness you deserve.