10 Special Qualities of Good Lovers!
Everyone wants to know that they’re bringing their partner pleasure in bed. Being an amazing lover isn’t about the tricks you know or that amazing thing you’re able to do, however. It’s about being willing to pay attention to your partner, dedicating yourself to their pleasure, and enjoying the entire experience. Wondering if you’re a good lover or just so-so? See how many of these criteria fit you.
1. You’re willing to learn.
Everyone you’re with will have a different response to the same gestures in bed. Not only that, your partner’s desires may change over time. A willingness to learn is crucial to taking your lovemaking to the next level.
2. You’re able to keep it light while still letting the passion burn bright.
Let’s face it: sometimes, things happen in the bedroom that are downright funny. If you take yourself too seriously, those moments can kill the mood and make both you and your partner miserable. On the other hand, if you can laugh at yourself, you can keep the moment going, and both of you can have a lot of fun in the process. Still, that doesn’t mean that it needs to be a laugh a minute. Your passion will help bring your partner’s higher.
3. You make your partner feel attractive.
This doesn’t just mean talking about how attractive you find their body. It’s also about taking the time to pay attention to your partner: to listen to what they have to say, to respect and respond to them in bed, and above all, to let them know that you find them desirable inside and out.
4. You aren’t afraid to be vulnerable.
Making love to someone is the ultimate vulnerability. It means opening yourself up and being willing to trust someone else completely. Your confidence in bed is one of your best attributes. When you put yourself and your fantasies out there, just hearing them will help get your partner hot and bothered, too.
5. You aren’t afraid to experiment.
The longer you’re with someone, the more likely you are to get into a rut–and that’s when the passion starts to decrease. Instead, try being a little adventurous. Open up, put yourself out there, and try something new. You never know when you might find something that both of you really enjoy.
6. You’re a fan of communication in bed.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to chatter from the moment you hop between the sheets, but knowing what your partner wants doesn’t usually come intuitively. Instead, communicate your needs and desires openly and encourage your partner to do the same.
7. You’re willing to take your time.
Good lovemaking doesn’t happen instantly, especially for women, who often need more time to work up to the big climax. Men, too, benefit from that special attention. The best way to be a lover who will never be forgotten is to be patient, willing to dedicate time to the act and enjoy the journey instead of rushing to the finish line.
8. You enjoy your partner’s pleasure.
When you’re focused on your own pleasure in bed, it can be hard to bring pleasure to your partner. On the other hand, when you truly enjoy bringing your partner pleasure, it gives you heightened status and capability as a lover.
9. You leave the judgment at the door.
Between two consenting adults, there is very little that is “gross” or “disgusting.” It might not be everyone’s cup of tea. It might not even be yours. But if your partner is willing to trust you with their fantasies, you should be willing to give them the respect and courtesy of treating them without judgement. Be willing to try something new. You never know when you’ll enjoy it more than you think.
10. You keep your head in the game.
Make eye contact with your partner and enjoy them instead of thinking about what you’re going to have for dinner or all the items on your agenda for tomorrow. When you’re thinking about something else in the middle of the act, your partner knows it, and your lovemaking skills suffer.
You have the capacity to be an amazing lover. The secret is simple: focus more on your partner than on yourself, let go of your inhibitions, and enjoy! These simple steps will take you on your way to becoming the best lover your partner has ever had.