Once in a while I am struck by a deep sadness, occasionally it’s for no good reason, most often it’s because something has happened in my life that causes me to question myself, my values, people I thought were deserving of trust, etc. It leaves me feeling naked, vulnerable, and unsure… although I do have a backup plan for these days.
Music soothes the savage beast they say, and it always helps to untangle my thoughts into a smoother version. Quite often I prefer to listen to songs about love and loss on these days, followed by classics that make me happy, and songs of faith and strength.
Bubble baths are an awesome way to turn a frown upside down, a nice warm soothing soak that smells good… light a candle, bring a glass of wine, relax and enjoy. Exercise is the best cure for the blues that I can ever think of, especially Zumba, hard to listen to that music and swing your hips without a smile appearing on your face.
I prefer to not be around other people on these days, I would never want a friend to think it has anything to do with them, other people may choose to hang out with friends, it’s a personal choice. I also try hard not to talk about what is bothering me while I am sad, if anyone asks I say “I will be fine thank you” other than that I do not feel obligated to share my personal feelings. If you have to work or deal with the public just force yourself to smile, a lot… I say fake it ’til you make it, it never fails to amaze me how painting on a smile can lead to a real one.
Count your blessings. Really. Compare your blessings to your troubles and your troubles seem smaller by comparison, it works every time. Be patient with yourself, you are allowed to not sparkle every minute of every day. Have faith that this is just a normal passing moment and it will get better, bad moments end as surely as good ones do.
I like to think of myself as a positive thinker, I also allow myself time to be sad when necessary. A good cry clears the brain of cobwebs and opens possibilities in your heart and mind. Just make sure to return to your positive thoughts once the moment has passed, learn from your sadness and see if there is a cause you can avoid in the future. Embrace yourself, you deserve it, and if you have a dog or a child near enough get a big hug as well, nothing brightens my day like a kiss from my 10 month old granddaughter. If all else fails, call a friend, call your mom, find a cookie, send an email… send ME an email, all will be well, believe that and make it true.
About the author:
MamaSteph has 2 kids by birth and several by love, she is a nurse and enjoys finding healthier ways to make comfort foods, gardening, enjoying nature, and living life to the fullest…For a list of her blogs please click here.