5 Reasons Your Wife’s Not Sleeping With You

5 Reasons Your Wife's Not Sleeping With You

5 Reasons Your Wife’s Not Sleeping With You

You’re Not Helping Enough with the Kids or the House

When you grow up and have kids and a life, it’s hard not to feel exhausted. If she is the one who is caring for these things without much help, though, she’s likely holding on to a bit of resentment. You’re partners in these things, and she wants some help with the day-to-day. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who gets up and does the dishes without being asked. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who doesn’t assume it’s his wife’s job to handle the kids at bed time or dinner or bath time. Get up, help out and watch the love return to your marriage in a heartbeat.


You’re Selfish

According to Dr. Pysch Mom, when you’re selfish, your wife doesn’t want to be near you. Take, for example, a woman who puts forth the effort to look gorgeous for a night out with her husband. When she comes down the stairs in her new dress and high heels hoping her husband’s eyes widen with appreciation, she is disheartened to hear him ask how much that dress cost (and why can’t you just wear one you already have?). It’s a selfish question that has everything to do with you and nothing to do with her; and it’s not the way to find some closeness in your marriage.

You Don’t Make the Effort

Your wife is not make love with you, and you let it go. You assume she will come around, but you have no idea she is waiting for you to make the first move. Perhaps you’ve been distracted lately and have no initiated lovemeking. She feels it’s because you no longer find her attractive, you feel that she’s been in such a bad mood lately you’ll let her get over it and tiptoe around her so as not to make things work. Now you’re both upset with one another but no one has mentioned it. You have to make the effort. She wants you to want her, and she wants you to show her how much you want her.

At the end of the day, simply asking your wife why she’s not interested in sleeping with you is the best way to handle the issue. Communication is key in any relationship, and that includes those moments in which closeness feels few and far between. If she’s not into you, you could be the problem; but you’ll never know unless you ask her to open up.