IndependentPeople who are independent are statistically more attractive than those who require a partner in their lives. These people are not needy and can take care of themselves, a highly respectable and rare trait in a species where socialization and a sense of belonging are widely viewed as second nature. If you end up always needing your significant other to be there for you every time there is difficulty in your life, you’ll end up exhausting them and turning your relationship into a toxic nightmare, at least for your significant other. So, how does one foster independence from a relationship? For starters, identify what you look for and need in a relationship. Is it stability? Affection? Attention? Or are you merely following a trend? Being self-aware of such things can save you from a ton of a headache and heartache from relationships that are not built on solid foundation. Knowing what you want and being able to relay that to your partner is healthy for your relationship. For instance, if you are looking for a serious relationship, tell him/her “You can date other men/women, but I am looking for a serious, long-term relationship”. This implies what you are looking for in a relationship without sounding too needy or suffocating.
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Similar to the first quality, loving oneself is an important attitude that’s innate in every irresistible person. When a relationship turns south, meaning your partner becomes abusive either verbally or physically, you got to be able to let things go. It seems like the right thing to do at the time is hold on and hope for things to get better, but such wishful thinking rarely works out in the end.
A healthy level of self-esteem is paramount to building this particular attitude. You need to know that you are worth more than how people see you, particularly how your partner sees you. In a relationship, taking care of yourself should be the priority.
Trust Your Partner
No one wants to be leashed into a relationship at all times. Sure, it can be fun to know someone’s always there to listen to your stories and care enough about you to text or call you early in the day or late at night. Too much of it, however, can be debilitating to the relationship. An irresistible person is self-confident enough to let their partner live freely and make their own choices. They allow their partners to thrive and take opportunities as it comes.
They won’t be worried about missing a phone call from you or get weirded out when you start to be overly attached and dependent on his/her opinions and attention. Let them have friends and meet new people and go on solo adventures from time to time. From their point of view, your partner will want and miss you even more since you don’t get to see or talk to each other on an hourly or daily basis.
These three magnetizing attitudes will make you infinitely more attractive towards your prospects and the people you love. It won’t always go your way, but in the end, you’ll find the right relationship that’s built on a solid foundation of mutual respect, trust, and interdependence.