Are You Treated the Way You Deserve In Your Relationship? – 8 Ways to Check
Relationships are diverse and complicated, and the many ways that partners express their love is as well. This makes it hard to recognize potentially unhealthy patterns in relational affairs. Whether you have reliable friends and family that will communicate hazardous signs to you or not, there are some things to watch out for on your own that can keep you from being hurt in a relationship. Below are eight ways that you can check to make sure you are being treated in a healthy way in your relationship and make sure you are treating your partner fairly as well.
1. You’re comfortable having a life outside the relationship
If you feel restricted by the one you love, to the extent that you fear going out and being with friends or attending events that interest you, it may be a sign that your relationship is unhealthy. You should be confident and comfortable doing things on your own and outside of the relationship.
2. You’re attracted to your partner more than just physically
If you find that your attraction to your partner is just skin deep, you might be in a relationship that doesn’t support your personality or desires. When we are in relationships for more than physical reasons, we are able to embrace our mental creativity and recognize deeper similarities, like ideals or politics.
3. Talking through things is encouraged
Being with a person that hates the idea of having a “talk” means that voicing frustrations, disappointments, or concerns is unwanted. You’ll want a partner that seeks to understand you in all areas, even the ones that might mean an uncomfortable change.
4. The focus is on what is right
Being with a “Debbie Downer” is a serious downer for many reasons. A healthy relationship focuses on the things in life that are going well, and looks optimistically to the future. It might be a bad sign if your partner can’t acknowledge the good in life and others.
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5. There is consistent mutual support
In a healthy relationship, both people are there physically and emotionally for each other. If there is anything sure about life, it’s that you never know what it will bring, so having a supportive partner can reduce a great deal of stress and lead to an overall healthier you.
6. Your partner does not become jealous of you or others
If your partner is frequently jealous of your time and especially those who you spend time with when you’re away, it could be a sign that you’re not being treated right. Watch out for signs of your partner using manipulation to keep you home or with them at all times.
7. There isn’t too much conflict
We’ve all seen relationships where it seems a miracle the couple has stayed together more than two hours, but sometimes we can feel it’s our own relationship that is constantly on the rocks. Bickering, fighting, and arguing on a consistent basis means you need to evaluate the bedrock of your relationship to see what is faltering.
8. There’s no history of cheating
A partner that has cheated in the past and has displayed habits that seem similar to cheating means they are not investing their mind and heart into you. Cheating is a hard habit to break and sometimes an even harder one to catch, and while excuses may tempt you to stay with the one you love, it definitely isn’t a sign of being treated right.
Overall, since every relationship is different, each of these points can take on separate forms. For one relationship, conflict may be much more minimal than another. You are the best barometer of what is normal in your relationship. That said, it is also beneficial to have an outside source help you discern if normal is unhealthy or if any new interactions are a sign of not being treated well.